Will this stop the bullying?

Just returned from a fabulous week’s skiing. Here I am, as you see – working hard!Who's this?

Working hard

Working hard!

Who’s this?

Who's this?


Sharing the restaurant and ski slopes with the rich and famous. Can you see who this is?


Recognise him now?

Recognise him now?

How important is education to you?

Goodness me, that was a shock and a half! Did you see these videos on the BBC website? Would you send your children off to school like this? Are we somewhat over-protective by comparison?

The world’s scariest school run

School run (for your life!)

Holding on

Enuresis - bedwettingAmong my Quest Cognitive Hypnotherapy clients was a teenager who came to me with enuresis. (Bedwetting)

I could talk now about ‘secondary gain’ – the unconscious motivation for the problem to exist and persist. But I’m not going to!

I am going to mention however, the reason why this young man did everything he could to avoid visiting the loo at school because school was the bigger part of the problem.

No, you can’t go now

You see, at his school, the pupils were only allowed to visit the loos during the breaks. I’m sure the reasons are obvious, aren’t they?

I mean, you wouldn’t want your child missing part of a lesson, would you, when they could obviously go to the loo out of lesson time?

And having spent 20 years in schools as a teacher, anything we could do to save ourselves the trouble of clearing up yet another flood (paper towels in the sink, turn the taps on and return to class) or putting out yet another fire (I really don’t know how one goes about setting fire to a toilet seat! Must require more ingenuity or imagination or persistence than I’ve got!)

But would you still want your child to make their visit at the same time as everyone else, if you knew that it was in the public lavatories that the vast majority of bullying occurs in schools?

Enuresis - bedwettingNo, maybe not!

In the case of my client, there was no way that the problem for which he had come to me for help was going to go away, unless he could visit the loo at school, in peace, and without the prospect of being followed.

Cast your mind back to your experiences of school loos, and I bet that like mine, your memories aren’t overly pleasant ones.

So you can probably imagine how delighted I was the other day to learn that some schools are beginning to do something about it.

Now we’ve got something to go on!

Perhaps surprisingly, the solution seems to lie in unisex bathrooms. And the key to it seems to be communal washbasin areas.

Hoorah for innovation!

If your child lacks self-esteem or confidence there is always something you can do about it, and the first thing you can do is contact me and find out how I can help.

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Appropriately enough, ITV’s “Good Morning” launched an anti-bullying drive this week. Please take the pledge to watch their video with your children and save lives.

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